The question of whether friendship between a man and a woman vexed scientists for quite some time. At this time, experts wanted to find out the reasons why men and women see friendship differently, but at the same time to understand why people actually make friends with the opposite sex. According to the findings of a recent study, men more often than women, attract friends of the opposite sex. And it turned out that men overestimate their attractiveness to women, and women in turn, underestimate how men attract them.
It turned out that the people who consider themselves attractive, overestimate sexual interest of others to yourself. Perhaps confidence in their own attractiveness forces them to risk. It is also possible that people overestimate their own attractiveness and as a result not able to understand why they often reject. According to social psychologist Antonia Abby from Minskogo state University, people tend to see what they want. If you are attracted to someone sexually, the more for this watch.
The researchers conducted an experiment in which he invited other people to see how the conversation unfolds between the subjects of men and women and asked to rate how each side seems attractive another. Male observers agreed with the men, according to them, women loved them more than actually. But women observers agreed with the women — in their opinion between them was less of an attraction.
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Experts believe that such results may indicate the presence of gender stereotypes. Scientists who study romantic social interaction between people, I believe that there are so-called “scenarios” of Dating. These scenarios can reveal the sequence of events that lead to the success or failure of finding a romantic partner. As it turned out, often our role is predefined.
According to Antonia Abby the context really matters in these interactions. Men often look for signs that a woman likes more than women. This is because traditional gender roles suggest that the initiative takes on a man. And kinda old fashioned as it may sound in 2019, a number of studies on the Dating proves it.
Why do you need friends of the opposite sex?
What would there not talking your old friend, but friendship with the opposite sex is not without her advantages. So, women often report that their male friends are able to protect them in the event of a dangerous or unpleasant situation. While both men and women say that friends of the opposite sex give them useful tips on searching for a partner. So the friendship between men and women useful for both sexes.
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Women is advantageous to be friends with men
If you thought that receiving the benefits of friendship with men doesn’t sound like the most honest benefit, one should not jump to conclusions. The fact that such behavior is deeply rooted in our past. One mother could have several children from different fathers. And in the upbringing of the child resources and protection from members of the opposite sex is clearly not superfluous. Thus, having children from different fathers and to be friends with men, women can get protection and resources from several men. In this case, it is not surprising that in order to make friends with a man, women subconsciously filed them hints that the man they like.
Agree, knowing all this, it is much easier to explain and understand the situations in which women take men who care for them, only as friends. In other words, the friend zone is not a new phenomenon. So, this is a historically formed way to survive and to feed the greatest possible number of descendants. Such cases.
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Why we choose attractive friends?
The researchers argue that we are subconsciously looking for attractive friends. This means that the romantic feelings between friends of the opposite sex may arise because our friend is already something that we believe seductive. Scientists do not exclude that the friendship with the opposite sex can make your romantic life more complicated.
According to Antonia Abby romantic feelings between friends of the opposite sex can arise over time. You may think that you are just friends, but at some moment everything can change. By the way, some studies say that the strongest pair is created by people who had long been in a strong friendship.